For so many families, the exodus of moving to the suburbs to live the “American Dream” with their 2.5 kids, dog, and white picket fence is a thing of the past. They’re trading in the backyard, garage, and minivan for balconies, a doorman, and Citi bikes…with no regrets.
Patrice Poltzer is a bonafide city mom who has raising kids in the city down to a science. A former Emmy-nominated TODAY show producer, she is the founder of Patrice Poltzer Creative, a video production house, as well as the co-founder of CityKin, a parenting site that celebrates raising kids in the city by way of advice, community, and inspiration for families around the world.
About Our Guest:
- 2:30 – Patrice talks about her childhood, how she met her husband, and her life in NYC
- 5:00 – Patrice tells us about a CityKin, an online community for city families
- 7:11 – Pros and cons of living in the city
- 13:30 – Patrice walks us through a day in her life
- 16:22 – Are most city parents more free-range in their parenting styles?
- 20:00 – Do you take extra safety or precautionary measures for your kids?
- 23:00 – Can you shed light on moms who chose to leave the suburbs for the city
- 26:01 – What problems does CityKin solve for city parents?
- 32:20 – Patrice shares her “mom sense” moment
A common theme moms face during postpartum is not being able to recognize ourselves and feeling a sense of loss of our former identity. I wanted to be a mother more than anything, but even I went through these emotions in my head. I felt blessed to have kids, but also hated my body and how I had less time to myself, my work, and my interests. I remember looking in the mirror after I had my third baby (which was 18 months after I had delivered twins) and I just wanted to cry. I saw my weight gain and this puffy face looking back at me and I just didn’t feel like myself. If you have felt this way, know that you are not alone.
On this episode, I am joined by Caroline Zwickson. She is a Certified Women’s Health & Life Coach and the creator of the Well Mama program.Caroline earned her Master in Counseling Psychology and obtained her Health Coach Certification from The Integrative Women’s Health Institute. She is a passionate mother who supports fellow moms in creating holistic and thriving health as they rediscover their identity as a woman and mother. Her focus is to help clients create optimal hormonal balance and discover true emotional well-being through functional nutrition, positive psychology, transformative life coaching tools, and lifestyle adjustments. With Caroline’s expertise and dedication, her clients discover what it truly means to flourish in motherhood and in life physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Caroline currently lives with her husband and two sons in San Francisco.
About Our Guest:
- 3:19 – What is postpartum depression vs. postpartum anxiety
- 8:00 – Misdiagnosis due to a thyroid issue
- 10:00 – How your world changes post baby
- 13:00 – Rediscovering our new identity
- 14:50 – Self love vs. self honorship
- 16:00 – How our cycle is tied to the moon
- 18:00 – Nutrients you may be in deficient in during postpartum
- 20:00 – Postpartum diet and hormonal health
- 25:55 – Postpartum depression and anxiety resources
- 30:28 – Caroline’s mom sense moment
- 34:04 – Quote of the Day
- 36:00 – Mom Haul
My OBGYN told me the first three months of a baby’s life should be considered a fourth trimester. Anything and everything that simulates the womb reminds your baby of his ‘happy place.’ Swaddling is one of the first techniques new parents learn to soothe their crying babies. I still remember learning to swaddle our twins at the hospital. My husband and I would practice on either my son or my daughter and then switch! With my third baby, it couldn’t be more easy peasy. He’s a lovely, low-maintenance kid and the fact that I actually know what I am doing probably helps too. Over the years, I’ve learned complicated swaddling techniques and easy ones and have tried various swaddle blankets and sleepers. And you know what? I personally feel that coming back to the basics is what works best for my baby. Here’s a video on swaddling made easy! I love Aden and Anais swaddles since they’re lightweight, breathable, and made of 100% organic cotton muslin.
It has caught us by surprise that after our twins, I am now expecting baby #3. A lot of friends have warned, advised, and damn-near scared me about what it’s like having three kids under the age of two (the twins and our littlest one will be 18 months apart), but my husband and I are bracing ourselves for the adventure that lies ahead.
Here are a few checklist items we got started on since we found out the good news:
Organizing our Hand-Me-Downs. Since we have boy-girl twins, we already have every single piece of clothing (blue or pink) along with toys and essentials for each milestone from newborn on up. Whew! I organized the twins’ clothes in separate bins (I love these Container Store Long Underbed boxes), which I labeled (0-3 months, 3-6 months, etc.). Easily being able to find what we need will be super handy when our baby arrives.
Be Prepared for Anything. Since this isn’t my first rodeo, it’ll be interesting to see the nuances of this baby’s needs vs. our twins how our twins were at that age (e.g. will the child take to a pacifier or not? Will he/she sleep through the night? Will he/she take to breastfeeding?) I am prepared for anything. Our twins are already so different, whether they’re gravitating to various toys (Suhana loves books, Krish likes playing with his toy basketball and soccer ball) or soothing mechanisms (Suhana likes to be held with her hair stroked and Krishie prefers his pacifier and falling asleep being rocked in the glider), so we know baby #3 is going to come with his/her own personality and preferences.
Go On a Couple’s Getaway. We aren’t doing a babymoon since we don’t want to the leave the kids for too long, so my husband and I are doing a mini spa retreat over a weekend. I can’t wait to relax, indulge in prenatal massages, and relish our adult conversation which won’t be centered around questions like, “did you remember to order the size 5 overnight diapers for next month?”
Book a Family Vacation. We are booking our very first beach vacation this summer prior to the baby’s arrival. Our twins were only 6-months-old last summer and weren’t quite sitting up so we avoided taking them to the beach. (Can you just picture them doing tummy time in the sand. No thanks!) So this year, I am very excited to be taking them on this trip where they’ll to explore unchartered waters (literally!) and we enjoy quality time as a family.
If you all have any tips on what else to do prior to baby #3 arriving, please leave them in the comments below. Any advice is welcome! Thank you for you good wishes!